Jehovah’s Witnesses Believe That Minors Can Consent to Sex With Adults

Over the years, the governing body of Jehovah’s Witnesses have sent a letter to all elders worldwide, telling them what to do when a child molester is part of their congregation. These letters actually state that they believe a minor child can consent to sex with an adult (note info highlighted in blue):

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This information was repeated in a letter dated October 1, 2012:

consent 2012 letter

Again in a letter dated August 1, 2016:

consent 2016 letter

And again in a letter dated September 1, 2017:

consent 2017 letter


Let me first of all say, I am well aware of the fact that minors under the age of 18 know all about sex, and many of them may be sexually active long before they are legally an adult. That being said, let’s break this statement down a bit so we can understand the gross obscenity of these words, and how easily it puts children in danger while allowing child rapists to freely roam the Kingdom Halls of Jehovah’s Witnesses.

How Young Is Too Young?

First note the phrase, a minor “approaching adulthood.” What does that mean? How young exactly, 17? 16? 15? Since an 18-year-old adult would then be a “few years older” than a 15-year-old, it’s certainly possible.

This may seem like a petty point, but it’s vitally important that non-Jehovah’s Witnesses, and rank-and-file members of the congregation, consider its importance. Since the governing body didn’t state specific ages, or what was meant by a minor “approaching adulthood,” this gives local bodies of elders great leeway in determining this for themselves.

Elders are then free to decide on their own that a 15-year-old, or someone even younger, had “consensual” sex with an adult, and a charge of pedophilia or child rape is dismissed in their minds. To them, a 19- or 20-year-old having sex with a 15-year-old is just sex between two consenting parties, not statutory rape.

Lest you think I’m exaggerating this point, note this post, where the situation of a man going into the bedroom of his underage stepdaughter and fondling her breasts while she slept was referred to as a “minor uncleanness.” The real problem, according to the instructions given in this particular case, was that he touched the breast of a female to whom he was not married, not that he molested a child, and his sleeping stepdaughter at that. Never once are the words “molestation” or “pedophile” used in that case.

Yet again, Jehovah’s Witnesses show that they have no understanding of the horrific nature of child rape and molestation. Their only concern is if two people are married, not if one is a child who has been abused or taken advantage of, which leads to the next point.

Minors Consenting is an Oxymoron

Consider also that a minor cannot consent to sex with an adult, especially an adult who is “a few years older” than them. Again, I understand that teenagers know all about sex, but teenagers are also impressionable, naive, easily coerced, lack understanding of what is best for them, and at times need protection even from themselves and their own impulses. It is imperative that adults understand this, and one who is a “few years older” than that teen is especially culpable.

This is exactly why the law backs me up on this point; even if a minor under the age of consent says that they want sex, and seem ready for sex, it is still often considered child rape to engage in sex with them (depending on the circumstances and local laws, of course). A minor is not allowed to make that decision for themselves, not legally or morally.


A child might “consent” to driving a car, but who is at fault for putting that child in danger, them or the adult who gave the child the car keys?

The fact that teens are not mentally and emotionally ready for certain responsibilities and activities, even if they seem physically ready, is exactly why we have particular laws in place barring them from those activities. For instance, in the United States, you need to be 16 to get your driver’s license, simply because it takes some maturity to keep yourself safe when behind the wheel.

Whether or not you’re tall enough to reach the pedals of a car is not the point; you need to have some seriousness of mind to understand that driving is fun, but also dangerous. If an adult gave their car keys to someone underage, they would be in trouble legally, and no doubt many people would question their judgment, no matter how much that child begged and pleaded to take the car. As an adult, it’s his or her responsibility to behave as the adult, and set needed boundaries.

Calling the police on an adult who allows a child to drive, drink alcohol, stay out all night, etc., is a good step to take, and I’m sure people can understand why a person should do that, for the protection of the child. Why, then, would Jehovah’s Witnesses fail to apply this same thinking to an adult having sex with a minor? This brings me to the next point.

Ignoring the Law as Well as Morals

The morality of just dismissing an adult having sex with a minor as being “consensual” is bad enough, but note that the law doesn’t allow for this reasoning either. If an adult has sex with a minor (outside the legal limits of their area), it’s called statutory rape, sexual assault, and so on; it doesn’t matter if the minor said he or she wanted sex or seemed ready for sex, and it doesn’t matter if the minor is “approaching adulthood,” whatever that means. The law gives very little leeway for a minor who is not yet at the age of consent to have sex with an adult.¹

Despite that, there is no instruction for elders to call the police and report this crime if it’s becomes known to them; they call their branch office only to get legal advice as to whether or not they’re obligated to report it. As I bring out in the Pedophilia category of this site, JWs see this act as a “sin” and not a crime; it’s “sinful” when the two are not married, but they feel no obligation to involve the law in these matters.

Determining Consent

Another important and disturbing question is who exactly determines if the minor gave this so-called consent, if there is any question? Would it be the adult who had sex with that minor? Would the elders make this determination?

This too is not a point to gloss over; as I bring out in this post, elders actually have the power to determine if an adult woman who claims to have been raped was actually raped, based on some flimsy instructions regarding her “mental disposition,” the circumstances around the incident, and if she delayed reporting it.

If elders believe they can, and should, sit across from an adult woman and tell her that no, she wasn’t raped, but she did actually consent to being sexually violated, what would stop them from sitting across from a teenager and doing the same?

By assuming that minors can consent to sex with an adult, a dangerous atmosphere is created in Kingdom Halls. An adult can easily groom teenagers “approaching adulthood,” have sex with them, and face no other consequences than a meeting with elders who chastise and counsel them about “fornication.”


Meanwhile, teens are coerced or even forced into sexual scenarios for which they’re not ready, and which may affect them for the rest of their lives.

The law does not support this statement made by Jehovah’s Witnesses, and neither do good morals and character. The protection of children and teenagers from any type of sexual exploitation should be of utmost importance to adults in any setting, but this just isn’t the case with Jehovah’s Witnesses, as this letter proves.

It also betrays the statement made by governing body member Stephen Lett on the TV channel for Jehovah’s Witnesses, where he insisted that the organization protects children from pedophiles (see this post).

Not only do Jehovah’s Witnesses fail miserably to do this, but they openly state their beliefs that a minor may very well have “consented” to having sex with an adult. The victims of the sick persons that prey on others in their religion are dismissed, and perhaps even blamed for their situation.

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¹Note that laws vary from location to location; some will take into account the age gap between minors and the adult in question, as well as the nature of the sexual activity. If you need specific information about sexual activity with a minor in your area, consult with an attorney or your local law enforcement agency.

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