My name is not Alexandra James, not even close. I honestly don’t even know how I came up with that name; it has nothing to do with anything or anyone I’ve ever known.
Like many former Jehovah’s Witnesses, I hid my identity for a long time because of the threat of being shunned by my family; if they knew how vocal I was against the religion online, they would probably be forced by their religion to no longer speak to me. Considering the fact that my sister doesn’t speak to my anyway and I’ve never had a real conversation with my mother a day in my life, I’m quite sure that this little game won’t last much longer, but this is where things stand now.
My mother started studying with Jehovah’s Witnesses when I was 5 and was baptized when I was 6. My stepfather never became a JW, but tolerated our lack of holidays and incessant meeting attendance.
My stepfather soon learned that he could easily take his anger out on my mother and I, since the elders were quick to always lecture and even yell and scream at the women in such situations, blaming them for “not being submissive enough.” One woman in my childhood congregation was even publicly reproved in front of the entire congregation for putting her new husband out of her home, after he hit her so hard she needed a hospital visit and who then threatened her daughters. Yes, she was the one counseled. Typical.
As an adult, I found it easy to simply fade from the religion and from the view of the elders and even my own family. I would just stop going to meetings and out in their preaching work for weeks, which turned into months, which turned into years. Don’t believe JWs when they say that they reach out to help such “inactive” ones, as this never happened with me. I was invisible, and they didn’t care.
I went back two or three times, but each time I returned, I could so easily see the hypocrisy, failed predictions, abuses, and so many other disturbing aspects of the religion. It took some time, but eventually I was able to break away from the religion, mentally and emotionally.
Now that I am completely free from the religion’s stranglehold, I write this blog in the hopes of waking up others to its danger. I chose the URL “JWvictims” because that’s what I wanted to concentrate on; the victimization that happens in this religion.
Thank you for sharing these blogs and posts; that’s one of the best ways to get the word out there about the horrific damage done by this religion.