Beware the Cult-Like Control and Abuse of Jehovah’s Witnesses


Are Jehovah’s Witnesses a cult?

Really, what difference does it make?

That’s not a flippant question, as being able to label Jehovah’s Witnesses a cult or not doesn’t really change or affect anything. If you can absolutely determine that Jehovah’s Witnesses are a cult, so what? Cults are legal in the U.S. and elsewhere.

Having them escape the label of cult also doesn’t give them special rights in areas of the world where their religion is restricted. “Hey, we’re not technically a cult, so you have to let us in, Russia.” I don’t think that’s going to work, but try it on Putin and let me know how it goes.

The label or word itself may not be important, but the level of cult-like, abusive control the religion has over its members should be of concern to anyone inside the religion and to those studying the bible with Jehovah’s Witnesses. Steve Hassan, a writer on cults, uses what he calls the BITE model to determine if a religion or other group can be considered a cult or abusive. This refers to the amount of control the group has over its members’ Behavior, Information, Thoughts, and Emotions.

To help people better understand how abusive and cult-like the religion of Jehovah’s Witnesses is, I’m going to post Hassan’s entire BITE model below, with short paragraphs about how the JW beliefs or thinking fit into many of those aspects of this model.


Behavior Control

1. Regulate individual’s physical reality

2. Dictate where, how, and with whom the member lives and associates or isolates

Jehovah’s Witnesses are known for isolating themselves from the outside world, even family members, despite the fact that they don’t live on compounds or in secluded communes. JWs do not associate or make friends with non-JWs and are prohibited from associating with those who have officially left the religion, including family. (Please see the Shunning category of this site.)

While they may have limited association with family who never were Jehovah’s Witnesses, the key word here is “limited.” They may attend a cousin’s wedding or see her new baby, but won’t go out to dinner with that cousin regularly or have her over on the weekends.

Isolation can also happen within the congregations; in this post I bring out how even teens are encouraged to avoid active members who they feel are not doing enough or living up to vague, man-made standards of conduct.

3. When, how and with whom the member has sex

As with many other Christian religions, Jehovah’s Witnesses do not allow their members to have sex before marriage or outside of marriage. This includes sexual behavior such as “manipulation of the genitals” and oral or anal sex. (Keep Yourselves in God’s Love, pp. 97-109)

Oral and anal sex are also prohibited between married persons; these were referred to as “perverted acts” in the March 15, 1983, Watchtower. The True Peace book referred to these as “homosexual forms of intercourse.” (Note the important point here; while most Christian religions forbid sex outside of marriage, Jehovah’s Witnesses dictate details of sexual relations between married persons.)

Pornography is also off-limits to all members, including adults and married couples. Masturbation is also prohibited; see this post.

4. Control types of clothing and hairstyles

Jehovah’s Witnesses dictate that women wear skirts and dresses when at their meetings and out in their preaching work; see this post. Men are prohibited from having beards or facial hair of any sort other than mustaches (i.e., no goatees, Van Dykes, etc.).

While these are somewhat unwritten rules, individuals will be given private counsel if they don’t follow these rules; anyone not following these rules will also be prohibited from certain participation in their meetings. Men will not qualify for any type of authority in the congregation if he has a beard or any chin hair. The same is true for more “immodest” hairstyles, such as dyeing the hair anything other than a natural shade, long hair on men, Mohawk cuts, and so on.

Governing body member Anthony Morris also caused quite a stir in 2014 when he gave two public discourses that openly condemned the wearing of tight pants by men, stating that it was the “many homosexuals” in the fashion industry who like to see men in such pants. Morris actually made Advocate magazine’s list of the worst LGBT-haters for the year because of this; see this website.

This type of control is extended to those visiting and touring any of their branch offices, as shown in this brochure:


Morris also said during a public discourse (this site) that women should not be wearing “spanx” while exercising (it’s assumed he meant spandex, or tight leggings).

I personally work out quite a bit and can attest that loose pants can be dangerous. You can easily step on a pant leg or they can get twisted between your legs when doing any type of stepping or running. Vigorous exercise can also cause what is called “leaky capillaries,” and resultant red spots on the legs. I’ve had this happen to me, but the support of leggings addresses the issue. See this website for more information on this condition.

While it’s true that some low-quality brands of yoga pants may be very sheer, even leggings of moderate quality will be made of thicker material that show nothing more than what you would see from a standard pair of jeans, and certainly you see more when a woman is in shorts or a bathing suit. Leggings also have an added panel sewn into the crotch area for modesty and comfort.

The point is, Morris didn’t say, “Be modest even when exercising,” but gave exact instructions on what women cannot wear without any thought as to why they may need to wear these while exercising, and without realizing that leggings are not the same as a pair of sheer nylons.

5. Regulate diet – food and drink, hunger and/or fasting

6. Manipulation and deprivation of sleep

7. Financial exploitation, manipulation or dependence

Jehovah’s Witnesses claim that they are different from other religions because they don’t pass a collection plate, however, their magazines often feature outright cash grabs and the begging for slave labor to build their Kingdom Halls, assembly halls, and branch offices; see this post and this post. These buildings remain the property of the Watchtower Society, even though they’re paid for and built by the rank-and-file members.

Their asking for donations could be called exploitation when you consider the December 15, 2013, Watchtower, which said:

In one very poor country in Africa, some brothers mark off a small section of their garden and use the funds from the sale of the produce from that section to support the Kingdom work. In that same country, a building project was scheduled for a much-needed Kingdom Hall. The local brothers and sisters wanted to assist. However, the project was to be undertaken in the middle of their planting season. Still determined to have a share, they worked on the Kingdom Hall project during the day and then planted their crops in the evening.”

This is despite the hundreds of millions of dollars the Watchtower Society has been earning from the sale of their buildings in New York alone (see this news story).

8. Restrict leisure, entertainment, vacation time

Vacation time itself is not necessarily restricted or controlled by Jehovah’s Witnesses, but many activities are, and others include very strong counsel:

Gambling of all sorts is prohibited among Jehovah’s Witnesses, even in small amounts such as when playing poker with friends. (May 15, 1995, and November 1, 2002, Watchtower). Highly competitive sports are also counseled against; even the game of chess was mentioned in a full article in the March 22, 1973, Awake magazine.

The January 15, 2013, Watchtower simplified edition counseled against recreation that might be taking away from time spent in the preaching work and meetings.

The book Questions Young People Ask speaks of “the dark side” of video games, counseled to keep music “in its place,” said, “Don’t take the matter of choosing a movie or a TV program lightly.” It also gave a list of questions to ask if invited to any gathering where dancing would be involved, including, “Who will be going? What kind of reputation do they have? Who is taking responsibility for the event? What supervision will there be? Do my parents approve of my attending the party? What type of dancing will be featured?”

9. Major time spent with group indoctrination and rituals and/or self indoctrination including the Internet

Jehovah’s Witnesses have reduced the time spent at their meetings, but as of this writing, they have a meeting on Sunday morning, then another meeting one night during the week. They are also told to use another night during the week for Family Worship, or a special night set aside for personal or family study. Just a few years back, this second night per week was spent at yet another meeting.

In addition to attending these meetings, members are pressed to study for them beforehand, meaning reading over the materials that will be discussed at that time. (Who Are Doing Jehovah’s Will Today brochure, published 2014, section 9, “How Can We Best Prepare for Christian Meetings?”)

Jehovah’s Witnesses are also instructed to read their JW material as it’s released; this includes bi-monthly magazines, tracts, books, and other such pieces. They also have two conventions in the year; this number has also been decreased in the past few years, as it was two small conventions and one large convention just a few years back.

The preaching work of Jehovah’s Witnesses, which they call “field service,” is also a major part of their lives. The average amount of time spent by those in the U.S. in this work is just under ten hours every month, but it’s encouraged to do as much as you can. Most Jehovah’s Witnesses go out in this work every Saturday morning for several hours, and during summer months, they may also go out one night during the week in the evening.

Jehovah’s Witnesses are encouraged to “pioneer,” which may include 30 hours of this preaching work in one month, or 750 hours over the course of an entire year. This number, too, has been reduced in the past years; the monthly activity was at one time 60 hours, and the annual hourly requirement for “pioneers” was 1000. (Note; these actual numbers may change, but the point is that they are encouraged to spend as much time in this part of their indoctrination process as possible.)

10. Permission required for major decisions

11. Thoughts, feelings, and activities (of self and others) reported to superiors

The February 15, 2012, and August 15, 2010, Watchtower both referred to “reporting” sin to the elders of the congregation. While these magazines used the word “serious” when talking about sinful conduct, many ex-JWs will attest to how often elders are approached about everyday activities of congregation members, including complaints regarding clothes that others are wearing, how families are raising their children or spending their money, if they feel someone has missed too many meetings or should be doing more in the preaching work, and so on.

12. Rewards and punishments used to modify behaviors, both positive and negative

Jehovah’s Witnesses can receive public or private reproof for a number of behaviors; public reproof involves a public announcement stating, “So-and-so has received counsel and is showing signs of repentance.” Private reproof means meetings with a panel of elders who ask pointed and direct questions about behaviors, and who give counsel and reprimands.

Jehovah’s Witnesses may face certain restrictions if deemed necessary by elders, such as not being allowed to comment during their meetings or handle certain responsibilities in the congregation.


An elderly JW in the kitchen to avoid eating with his non-JW son.

Perhaps the most stringent form of punishment that Jehovah’s Witnesses employ is the practice of shunning, which extends even to family members and “young ones.” (See the Shunning category of this site.)

This shunning is virtually all-encompassing; JWs will not speak at all to a disfellowshipped or disassociated person, and may even avoid family functions where such ones will be present. While some minimal contact with close family members is allowed, this cannot include socializing and, in most cases, JWs will not even eat with disfellowshipped or disassociated family members; see the photo above.

It’s also outright encouraged that members shun other members in the congregation if they feel these ones are not living up to certain standards of conduct; this behavior is even taught to teens. See this post.

13. Discourage individualism, encourage group-think

One of Jehovah’s Witnesses can be disfellowshipped (excommunicated) for believing or teaching anything other than their official doctrine (Shepherd the Flock of God book).

The May 8, 2003, Awake magazine included an article titled, “Does Christian Unity Require Uniformity?” The article mentioned that Christians were and are allowed to make individual choices about many matters, but also stated:

“… loyal Christians would not insist on their personal rights to the detriment of the consciences of others or at the expense of congregation unity. Nor should they claim freedom of action to do something clearly forbidden by God’s Word. (Romans 15:1; 2 Peter 2:1, 19) Love for God should move us to attune our conscience to God’s thinking. This, in turn, will keep us united with fellow believers.”

Note, too, the beliefs Jehovah’s Witnesses have that take away a person’s individualism, including the direction that women all wear skirts and dresses at meetings and when preaching, that men all be clean-shaven, and the prohibitions against sexual matters even between married couples.

14. Impose rigid rules and regulations

The term “rigid rules and regulations” could be interpreted to mean any number of things; some might see the prohibition of sex before marriage as being rigid, whereas others may agree with this standard.

However, note again some rules and regulations that may seem overly rigid to most persons, including the ban on beards and the insistence that women wear skirts and dresses.

Jehovah’s Witnesses require members in good standing to not only participate in their preaching work, but to report on that activity every month. They require members in good standing to attend and participate in all their meetings; to fail to do so can result in counsel and the removal of “privileges,” including the ability to hold positions of authority for men.

Masturbation, pornography, and oral and anal sex are all forbidden, even between married couples; this may be deemed as being very rigid and downright invasive of one’s privacy.

Another rigid rule or regulation that is noteworthy is the requirement of women to scream and resist if facing rape, and if they don’t, they are deemed as having “consented” to the act and may face shunning for “fornication.” See the category on Rape for more info.

The book “Shepherd the Flock of God,” the handbook used by elders to oversee congregations and determine judicial matters, is kept strictly confidential from other congregation members, and women especially, as they are not allowed to even handle the book in order for it to be spiral-bound. This may seem like a very rigid rule when you consider that information inside the book directly affects those in the congregation, and also consider that the bible, which they consider their holy book, is public and required reading. In other words, the word of their god is public, but the words of men are kept secret.

According to the Shepherd book, a person can be disfellowshipped (excommunicated) for:

  • smoking and other uses of tobacco (i.e., chewing tobacco)
  • gambling of any sort including incidental wagers (playing poker with friends, buying a lottery ticket)
  • “manipulation of the genitals” between persons who are not married
  • “willful, continued, unnecessary association with disfellowshipped nonrelatives”
  • extreme physical uncleanness
  • gluttony
  • obscene speech or “sexually explicit, filthy expressions”
  • taking up professional boxing

While there are other matters for which a person may be disfellowshipped, these might be considered the most “rigid.”

In the October 15, 2006, Watchtower,  the article “Weddings That Are Honorable in the Sight of God and Man,” discussed how to have a marriage recognized by the congregation, based on varying legal requirements in each country. It then said, “If a Christian elder will deliver a wedding talk, … the speaker will not feature humor or folk sayings.” It also stated:

“Unless local law requires something else, these vows that honor God are used. For the groom: “I [name of groom] take you [name of bride] to be my wedded wife, to love and to cherish in accordance with the divine law as set forth in the Holy Scriptures for Christian husbands, for as long as we both shall live together on earth according to God’s marital arrangement.” For the bride: “I [name of bride] take you [name of groom] to be my wedded husband, to love and to cherish and deeply respect, in accordance with the divine law as set forth in the Holy Scriptures for Christian wives, for as long as we both shall live together on earth according to God’s marital arrangement.”

The point being, a couple’s wedding ceremony should not include “humor” or any type of “folk sayings,” and the bride and groom have no option to write their own wedding vows. Some might view this direction as being very strict and rigid.

15. Instill dependency and obedience

Obedience to the organization is demanded; the November 15, 2013, Watchtower simplified edition said, “At that time [referring to Armageddon or the end of the world], the life-saving direction that we receive from Jehovah’s organization may not appear practical from a human standpoint. All of us must be ready to obey any instructions we may receive, whether these appear sound from a strategic or human standpoint or not.”

Obedience to the elders in each congregation is also expected. The April 1, 2007, Watchtower contained an article about being obedient to the elders, referring to them as “heavenly gifts to the congregation.” It said:

“Our heavenly Shepherds, Jehovah God and Jesus Christ, expect us to be obedient and submissive to the undershepherds whom they have placed in positions of responsibility within the congregation.”

The article also noted that submission was expected even if members do not agree with the elders:

“What, though, if we are not convinced that in a certain case the elders’ direction is the best way of doing things? That is where submission comes into play. It is easy to obey when everything is clear and we agree, but we will show that we are truly submissive if we yield even when we do not personally understand the direction provided.”

The demand for obedience extends to the family, as women are expected to be submissive to their husbands in all matters, even if he is being abusive in any way. As I bring out in this post, men are told that they have the authority to “correct” their wives with “firmness,” even in matters of how she dresses or wears her makeup.

Information Control

1. Deception:
a. Deliberately withhold information
b. Distort information to make it more acceptable
c. Systematically lie to the cult member

Jehovah’s Witnesses deliberately withhold information from their members by giving instructions and directions to elders only; as an example, a letter dated October 1, 2012, sent to all elders worldwide, stated outright that a known pedophile could have positions of authority in the congregation. This information is not common knowledge among the rank-and-file members.

The handbook used by elders, Shepherd the Flock of God, is also for their eyes only; women are not even allowed to touch the book to have it spiral-bound, and elders must oversee any other male member of the congregation who performs this work.

The financial information of the organization as a whole is also kept secret from members.

In another area, Jehovah’s Witnesses withhold information from authorities in cases of child molestation. According to their instructions, they are to report these cases only when required by law and only after calling their branch office first. Jehovah’s Witnesses have also been found to keep records from authorities when requested in child abuse cases, even destroying those notes and files. (See this post.)

10675689_10200287115178180_5280672774993496545_nDistortion of information and outright lies are also used to change their doctrines and teachings when a prediction of theirs has failed to come true. As an example, for years Jehovah’s Witnesses taught that the generation which was alive in 1914 would not die before Armageddon occurred and its members received a promised paradise.

In recent years, as it became obvious that this generation has died out, they changed the term to “overlapping” generations; anyone that knew anyone who was alive in 1914 (i.e., their children or grandchildren) could then be included in that “generation.”  Please see this website for a more detailed explanation.

This practice of distorting their own information or outright lying about their own history is not uncommon, as you can see from the illustration above.

Jehovah’s Witnesses also have a long history of misquoting outside information, to make their teachings appear as if it is backed up by authoritative sources. For a list of misquotes and outright deceptions in their literature, please visit this site.

2. Minimize or discourage access to non-cult sources of information, including:
a. Internet, TV, radio, books, articles, newspapers, magazines, other media
b. Critical information
c. Former members
d. Keep members busy so they don’t have time to think and investigate
e. Control through cell phone with texting, calls, internet tracking

Jehovah’s Witnesses are strongly counseled against reading anything that is critical of the religion, referring to websites and other sources of information as “apostate propaganda.” (Watchtower May 1, 2000, and February 15, 2011)

The book, Keep Yourselves in God’s Love, stated:

“You can also absorb that evil spirit through objectionable literature, pornographic or apostate Internet sites, unwholesome entertainment, and highly competitive sports—really, through anyone or anything that conveys the thinking of Satan or his system.” (Bold added for emphasis.)

Former members are also to be strictly avoided by active Jehovah’s Witnesses, even family. When associating with family who were once JWs, biblical discussions are off-limits.

Members are kept constantly busy in their preaching work, consistent study of literature written by the JWs, weekly meetings, assemblies, and the like. From the April 15, 2015 Watchtower simplified edition:

“Read, study, and meditate on God’s Word, the Bible. Keep praying to Jehovah and keep busy serving him. If you do these things, you can trust that Jehovah will help you to endure all your trials now and any that may come in the future.” Bold added for emphasis.

3. Compartmentalize information into Outsider vs. Insider doctrines
a. Ensure that information is not freely accessible
b. Control information at different levels and missions within group
c. Allow only leadership to decide who needs to know what and when

Jehovah’s Witnesses withhold information from rank-and-file members by keeping secret their instructions to elders; this, in turn, does not allow their everyday members to know the real truth about their religion.

As an example, the handbook used by elders, Shepherd the Flock of God, is not to be shown to anyone other than elders. That book instructs elders that, for instance, when a woman is accused of adultery, her husband may sit in on all her meetings with elders. However, when a man is accused or even outright confesses adultery, this information is considered “confidential” from the wife. Women are not allowed to know that this procedure is in place, much less this information about her husband’s conduct; see this post.

As another example, instructions to elders given in a letter dated October 1, 2012, stated outright that those who have sexually abused children may qualify for privileges of service (meaning authority in the congregation) but everyday members are not allowed to know this process is in place, much less know that a member of their congregation has committed an act or acts of child molestation.

4. Encourage spying on other members
a. Impose a buddy system to monitor and control member
b. Report deviant thoughts, feelings and actions to leadership
c. Ensure that individual behavior is monitored by group

5. Extensive use of cult-generated information and propaganda, including:
a. Newsletters, magazines, journals, audiotapes, videotapes, YouTube, movies and other media
b. Misquoting statements or using them out of context from non-cult sources

Jehovah’s Witnesses receive several Watchtower and Awake magazines every year, along with books, tracts, and other pamphlets and journals. Their website,, also has videos and other media that they are encouraged to use extensively, for themselves and their children.

Jehovah’s Witnesses also have a history of misquoting outside sources or taking them out of context to make their own statements appear accurate and authoritative. See this website for examples.

6. Unethical use of confession
a. Information about sins used to disrupt and/or dissolve identity boundaries
b. Withholding forgiveness or absolution
c. Manipulation of memory, possible false memories

Discussing an unethical use of confession within the religion of Jehovah’s Witnesses is difficult, as there are no written rules about how to use confession in such a way; however, stories from ex-Jehovah’s Witnesses abound regarding elders who ask grossly obscene questions of the women when discussing sexual matters, those who mercilessly grill confessors in a harsh and draconian style, and those who have been accused of child rape being allowed to question their accusers without interruption or any type of guidance. One such inquisition asked a child rape victim how far apart her legs were spread during her attack and another asked pedophile victims if they enjoyed it at all (see this post and this post).

Training videos for elders released in 2015 showed a demonstration where a group of elders withheld forgiveness or absolution from a man who had confessed fornication because they didn’t feel he had the right heart condition, or was concerned enough about the reproach he brought on Jehovah’s name:

Thought Control

1. Require members to internalize the group’s doctrine as truth
a. Adopting the group’s ‘map of reality’ as reality
b. Instill black and white thinking
c. Decide between good vs. evil
d. Organize people into us vs. them (insiders vs. outsiders)

Jehovah’s Witnesses outright refer to their religion as “the truth.” The March 1, 2002, Watchtower included a full article titled, “How Precious is the Truth to You?”, referring to their religious beliefs and organization.

The “us vs. them” mentality is also abundant among Jehovah’s Witnesses. Anything outside the organization is referred to as “the world”; note the November 15, 2011, Watchtower simplified edition, “Temporary Residents in a Wicked World,” which referred to Christians living in “Satan’s world.”

The book Keep Yourselves in God’s Love, pages 50-61, instructs on “How to Keep Separate From the World.” It states:

“Its influence often begins subtly, perhaps by way of associates who may appear to be good people but, in fact, have no love for Jehovah.”

2.Change person’s name and identity

I cannot attest to this being a current practice, but when I was active as one of Jehovah’s Witnesses, married women were referred to on their official records as “Mrs. [husband’s first name] [husband’s last name].” So Mary Jones, married to John Jones, would be referred to on her records as Mrs. John Jones. This was done even if she did not take her husband’s last name when marrying him.

Members are also referred to as brother and sister rather than mister or missus; an elder is therefore “Brother Smith” versus “Mr. Smith,” and a woman is “Sister Jones” versus “Ms. Jones.”

3. Use of loaded language and clichés which constrict knowledge, stop critical thoughts and reduce complexities into platitudinous buzz words

The loaded language of Jehovah’s Witnesses is abundant; please visit their website,, and search for any of these terms to see how they are used. They refer to their religion as “the truth” and anything outside of their religion as “the world.” People who are not JWs are referred to as “worldly.”

Jehovah’s Witnesses often state that we are living in “the last days,” meaning a time when god will soon step in and destroy those who are not Jehovah’s Witnesses. The entire political and economic structure outside of the religion is referred to as “Satan’s system of things” and the paradise they have promised their members is called “the new system.”


The governing body of Jehovah’s Witnesses refers to themselves as “the faithful and discreet slave” and congregants are called “sheep,” with elders and others in authority called “shepherds.” Those who do not listen to Jehovah’s Witnesses are often called “goats,” and when such ones try to refute their teachings, JWs are told that it doesn’t matter if they cannot answer them as they are looking for “honest-hearted ones” who will receive their preaching.

The terms “brighter light” and “new light” are also commonly  used to explain why their governing body needs to change their teachings and doctrines. Their teachings and literature are also commonly referred to as “spiritual food.” Other religions are referred to as “Christendom” and are outright called “false.”

Loaded and misleading language is also often used when talking about the positions of husbands and wives in a family. As brought out in this post, a woman who is not submissive to her husband is accused of “competing” with him, leaving no room for a simple equalizing of roles between them.

4. Encourage only ‘good and proper’ thoughts

Jehovah’s Witnesses are regularly encouraged to regularly meditate on bible principles (September 15, 2013, and January 15, 2015, Watchtower simplified edition) and to “reject bad thoughts” or “men’s thoughts.” (March 15, 2011, January 1, 2005, Watchtower). The August 15, 2013, Watchtower simplified edition said, “If we want to be holy, we have to reject wrong thoughts and desires.”

In training videos for elders, they encourage a suicidal woman to reject thoughts of suicide as she would an immoral thought:

5. Hypnotic techniques are used to alter mental states, undermine critical thinking and even to age regress the member

6. Memories are manipulated and false memories are created

7. Teaching thought-stopping techniques which shut down reality testing by stopping negative thoughts and allowing only positive thoughts, including:
a. Denial, rationalization, justification, wishful thinking
b. Chanting
c. Meditating
d. Praying
e. Speaking in tongues
f. Singing or humming

One form of rationalization or justification that Jehovah’s Witnesses use when it comes to shutting down criticisms of their failed predictions is the use of the term “brighter light” or “new light.” These phrases are meant to indicate that they have been given new guidance from god that, in turn, required an “adjustment” in their understanding of bible teaching.

Jehovah’s Witnesses are also consistently counseled to pray when experiencing any negative thoughts and emotions; the book Keep Yourselves in God’s Love, pages 196-205, stated:

“Never give in to the negative, degraded, twisted thinking of Satan’s old world. If you sense that the spirit of this world is making inroads into your mind or heart, pray fervently to Jehovah for “the peace of God that surpasses all understanding.” That God-given peace will guard your heart and your mental powers.”

Jehovah’s Witnesses compose their own music and songs, dubbed Kingdom Melodies, and openly encourage congregants to use them even when not at their meetings. The July 22, 2002, Awake magazine related one woman’s experience with depression:

“During difficult times, I listen to audio cassettes of the Bible and to Kingdom Melodies—spiritually and emotionally uplifting music prepared by Jehovah’s Witnesses.”

8. Rejection of rational analysis, critical thinking, constructive criticism

Critical thinking or analysis of the beliefs of Jehovah’s Witnesses is often described as “apostate” information or outright propaganda, to be avoided. The May 1, 2000, Watchtower stated:

“Some apostates are increasingly using various forms of mass communication, including the Internet, to spread false information about Jehovah’s Witnesses. As a result, when sincere individuals do research on our beliefs, they may stumble across apostate propaganda. Even some Witnesses have unwittingly exposed themselves to this harmful material.”

The article also counseled against those in the congregation who may have disagreements or “debates.”

9. Forbid critical questions about leader, doctrine, or policy allowed

The February 15, 2009, Watchtower said of the governing body of Jehovah’s Witnesses:

“Since Jehovah God and Jesus Christ completely trust the faithful and discreet slave, should we not do the same? … The slave thus deserves our complete trust.”

During a discourse given in 2014, governing body member Anthony Morris stated that those who would disagree with his words would need to “take it up with god.”

The term “causing divisions” is also used in the handbook of elders, Shepherd the Flock of God, and can be applied to anyone who outright questions their doctrine. This same book noted that a person could be disfellowshipped if they don’t accept bible teachings as set out by Jehovah’s Witnesses.

10. Labeling alternative belief systems as illegitimate, evil, or not useful

Other Christian religions are referred to by Jehovah’s Witnesses as Christendom, and a search of their literature will show that they refer to these as “unfaithful,” as being rejected by god (November 15, 2004, Watchtower), “pagan,” “steeped in false worship” (February 15, 2001, Watchtower), with “reprehensible actions and false teachings” (Isaiah’s Prophecy book, pages 390-402). The Isaiah’s Prophecy book also states that “calamity will come upon unfaithful Christendom, whose members claim to worship God but actually disown him by their works.” (Pages 230-243)


Trademarks of false religion, according to Jehovah’s Witnesses.

All other religions outside of Jehovah’s Witnesses are referred to as “false religions.” The September 15, 2012, Watchtower simplified edition stated that the world would come to an end first by seeing “false religion” destroyed. The September 15, 2004, Watchtower said, “Satan has, in fact, built up a world empire of false religion, identified by rage, hatred, and almost endless bloodshed.”

The May 1, 2012, Watchtower stated that there are two types of religion; one false, and one true, and that true religion would be those who “serve Jehovah.” The book, What Does the Bible Really Teach, notes that false religion does not use idols, celebrate holidays (with a special emphasis on why the true religion would not celebrate Christmas), or worship ancestors.

Emotional Control

1. Manipulate and narrow the range of feelings – some emotions and/or needs are deemed as evil, wrong or selfish

2. Teach emotion-stopping techniques to block feelings of homesickness, anger, doubt

While Jehovah’s Witnesses do not necessarily come right out and deem emotions like anger or resentment as being evil, wrong, or selfish, they do give strong counsel about these types of negative emotions. For example, the November 15, 2012, Watchtower, the article “Forgive One Another Freely” stated:

“…if you suffer an affront or an injustice, what can help you to keep your emotions under control, react as Jehovah would want you to, and be willing to forgive? … The Scriptures indicate that a willingness to forgive others regardless of how often they offend us is a Christian requirement. … A person may feel anger, a sense of betrayal, the desire for justice or even revenge. In fact, some feel that they will never be able to forgive the offender. If you feel similarly, how can you cultivate the forgiving attitude that Jehovah requires? … we can lessen anger, disappointment, and other negative emotions with understanding, open-mindedness, and a willingness to forgive.”

Doubts are also strongly cautioned against. The October 1, 2009, Watchtower, in the article “He Fought Against Fear and Doubt,” says:

Doubt can be a powerful, destructive force. If we yield to it, it can eat away at our faith and cause us to sink spiritually. We need to fight back vigorously! How? By keeping the right focus. If we dwell on what scares us, what discourages us, what distracts us from Jehovah and his Son, we will find our doubts growing. If we focus on Jehovah and his Son, on what they have done, are doing, and will do for those who love them, we will keep corrosive doubts at bay.”

Note, there is no counsel given on doing apt research to erase doubt, but counsel to simply stop thinking about what makes a person doubt in the first place.

Things that give Jehovah’s Witnesses doubts are also referred to as “satanic propaganda” in the July 1, 2001, Watchtower, which also said:

“‘Are we really living in the last days? Can you believe everything the Bible says? Is this truly Jehovah’s organization?’ Satan would love to plant doubts like these in your mind.”

3. Make the person feel that problems are always their own fault, never the leader’s or the group’s fault

One distinct area where Jehovah’s Witnesses have placed blame on members is their failed prophecies; Jehovah’s Witnesses have made direct statements regarding the end of the world as taking place in 1914, 1925, 1975, and before the end of the 20th century. After this end failed to come, their literature stated outright that the problem was the “inflated” imaginations of members (Watch Tower 1976) and stated that “his own understanding was based on wrong premises” (July 15, 1976, Watchtower).

The August 15 2004 Watchtower stated:

“When we feel tired and discouraged in our service to God, could it be because the pursuit of material things is smothering our spirituality? … One married couple decided to eliminate some of their hobbies and nonessential personal projects. They actually went through their things and literally packed all the materials related to such projects and put them out of sight. Periodically, we can all benefit from taking inventory of our habits and possessions, putting off every unnecessary weight so that we may not get tired and give out in our souls. … Do we regularly eat wholesome meals and get enough rest? Reasonable attention to our health in general can minimize feelings of emotional and spiritual exhaustion.”

4. Promote feelings of guilt or unworthiness, such as:
a. Identity guilt
b. You are not living up to your potential
c. Your family is deficient
d. Your past is suspect
e. Your affiliations are unwise
f. Your thoughts, feelings, actions are irrelevant or selfish
g. Social guilt
h. Historical guilt

Pushing their members to do more, and accomplish more, and to live up to their potential is a hallmark of Jehovah’s Witnesses; the February 1, 2015, Watchtower discussed the subject of secular work, and said:

“Rather than simply doing the minimum, look for ways to do more than is required. Set personal goals; challenge yourself to do your work better or faster than expected.”

The May 15, 2010, Watchtower addressed the men of the religion:

“If you are a dedicated male, ask yourself: ‘Do I have a full share in the preaching work, and am I assisting others to do so? Am I building up my fellow worshippers by taking a sincere interest in their welfare? Do I have the reputation of being a good student of God’s Word? Am I improving the quality of my comments? Do I diligently care for the assignments entrusted to me by the elders?’ … Such questions merit serious consideration.”

The article talked about the “self-sacrificing spirit” that would be needed.

The November 15, 2009, Watchtower said:

“What if we simply lack motivation to do more in Jehovah’s service and are inclined to coast along in the congregation? … beg Jehovah to make us want to make spiritual advancement.”

Many ex-Jehovah’s Witnesses can also attest to the many, many discourses given at meetings and assemblies that consistently encourage ones to preach more, contribute more, and seriously consider working as missionaries where possible. The goal of “pioneering,” or putting in some 750 hours every year in their preaching work, is also consistently encouraged in their magazines, with parents even being encouraged to help their children set this as a goal.

This is often contrasted with pursuing a secular career, which is typically presented as being for spiritually weak. The September 15, 2005, Watchtower says:

“Youths, what are your plans for the future? Are you seeking to excel in some professional field? Or are you working toward a career in the fulltime service? “Keep strict watch that how you walk is not as unwise but as wise persons,” admonished Paul, “buying out the opportune time for yourselves, because the days are wicked.” He adds: “On this account cease becoming unreasonable, but go on perceiving what the will of Jehovah is.””

As for the family being deficient, governing body Anthony Morris gave a public discourse in Italy in 2014 and chastised the families, asking if they had taken their children to an amusement park versus visiting their local branch office for a tour, telling them to “explain that to God.” Consistent counsel is given to families about their “Family Worship” night and about doing more as JWs.

5. Instill fear, such as fear of:
a. Thinking independently
b. The outside world
c. Enemies
d. Losing one’s salvation
e. Leaving or being shunned by the group
f. Other’s disapproval

Fear is a very common theme among Jehovah’s Witnesses and their teachings, even if they try to “candy coat” this fear in various ways. Consider:

The July 15, 2006, Watchtower referred to the “trap of independent thinking,” as applied to questioning the changes in doctrine over the years. The Worship God book decried the “independent” attitude of “the world,” listing it in the same paragraph as “immorality and violence.” The same book also said, “We should not think that we can figure out everything by independent research.”

The December 15, 2013, Watchtower talked about “newspaper headlines, television documentaries, and Internet Web pages” being used to propagate untruths, and said that those who believe them were “gullible.”

Anyone and everyone outside of Jehovah’s Witnesses is referred to as “the world.” The world is often depicted as being controlled by Satan; note what is said in the God’s Love book:

““The world” Jesus mentioned refers to all of mankind who are alienated from God, ruled by Satan, and enslaved to the selfish, prideful spirit that emanates from him.”

The book refers to the world as having an “evil spirit,” and says:

“Simply put, the spirit of the world progressively causes the traits of the Devil to grow in the hearts of humans … [it] is deceptive and impels millions to look to money and material things for happiness.”

armageddon-watchtower-sep-15-2012Losing one’s salvation is a prominent part of their teaching; the idea of salvation being conditional is noted in the Isaiah’s Prophecy book (pp. 76-92), the book Reasoning From the Scriptures (pp. 356-361), and the December 15, 2013, Watchtower, which said:

“We definitely do not want to ‘miss the purpose’ of Jehovah’s undeserved kindness and lose out on the promise of everlasting life…”

The August 1, 2006, Watchtower said:

“A person’s life can become cluttered with so many activities and pursuits that he is hard-pressed to find the time needed to maintain the all-important spiritual routine and balance. The result is that he may suffer spiritually and eventually lose out entirely on entering God’s promised new world.”

Losing one’s salvation includes a horrible, fiery death at Armageddon, as depicted in the illustration from the September 15, 2012, Watchtower, above, and many illustrations like this one.

Shunning is also a common fear among Jehovah’s Witnesses. If disfellowshipped, a person is shunned entirely by their family and friends; even “young ones” can be shunned; note this public discourse recorded in 2013 that encourages and even downright demands that family shun each other:

This fear of disapproval is also extended to the congregation itself, as I bring out in this post. Even teens are encouraged to shun active, faithful members who are not supposedly living up to vague, man-made standards of obsessive activities within the religion.


From the November 15 2014 Watchtower. I would say they’ve sufficiently instilled fear into that little girl.

6. Extremes of emotional highs and lows – love bombing and praise one moment and then declaring you are a horrible sinner

Love bombing and praise are difficult to define, separate from common courtesy to new visitors at a Kingdom Hall. However, one thing I might note is that Jehovah’s Witnesses are often concerned about the “witness” they give to those outside the religion through their conduct (April, 2011, Kingdom Ministry, “Our Conduct is Refreshing to Observers”), with little thought given or stressed as to the “witness” their conduct gives to ones inside the congregation.

Note this post about a long, rambling, incoherent and downright abusive letter a JW mother wrote to her daughter, no doubt with little thought as to the “witness” this would give the child:

Angry abuse toward children was and is common, as was domestic violence when I was in the religion; women were then blamed for this abuse because of “not being submissive enough.” These opposing actions are very common among Jehovah’s Witnesses, and used to recruit or impress outsiders and then persistently browbeat those already in the religion.

7. Ritualistic and sometimes public confession of sins

8. Phobia indoctrination: inculcating irrational fears about leaving the group or questioning the leader’s authority
a. No happiness or fulfillment possible outside of the group
b. Terrible consequences if you leave: hell, demon possession, incurable diseases, accidents, suicide, insanity, 10,000 reincarnations, etc.
c. Shunning of those who leave; fear of being rejected by friends, peers, and family
d. Never a legitimate reason to leave; those who leave are weak, undisciplined, unspiritual, worldly, brainwashed by family or counselor, or seduced by money, sex, or rock and roll
e. Threats of harm to ex-member and family

The June 15, 2000, Watchtower talked about Korah, a bible figure who was not “honoring God-appointed theocratic leadership,” and said, “Korah and the 250 chieftains were destroyed by a fire from Jehovah.”

Jehovah’s Witnesses regularly teach that any life outside the religion only results in misery; the June 15, 2010, Watchtower says:

“… some who in the past chose to leave the ‘safe water’ of the Christian congregation now bitterly regret that decision. One sister, whom we will call Tanya, explains that she … left the congregation to “pursue worldly enticements.” … She now says: “The three years I spent away from the congregation left ugly scars on my emotions that will not go away … I want to tell all the young ones who are wishing they could ‘taste’ the world even for just a little while: ‘Don’t!’ It may taste good at first, but it leaves an extremely bitter aftertaste. The world has nothing but misery to offer. I know. I tasted it. Stay in Jehovah’s organization! It’s the only way of life that brings happiness.” … Just think what would become of you if you were to abandon the protective environment of the Christian congregation. Many, recalling their futile course of life before they accepted the truth, simply shudder at the thought … You can continue to find security and protection from the woes and misery so common in Satan’s world by staying in close company with your Christian brothers and sisters.”

Shunning is a punishment Jehovah’s Witnesses use for those who leave the organization. This includes young ones and family literally turning their backs on each other.

Those who leave are often referred to as “spiritually weak” (Watchtower of July 1, 2004, August 15, 2010, August 15 2012, and March 15 2013). The July 15, 2011, Watchtower said that some leave in order to “draw away disciples after themselves.”


I would add some additional considerations when determining if a religion or any other group crosses the line into rightly being called abusive or high-control. Consider:

Physical Abuse

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From the May 15 2012 Watchtower. This is how Jehovah’s Witnesses expect women to respond to abusive men, even if the abuse is physical.

Hassan mentions sleep deprivation, but I might consider if there is marked physical abuse within a religion, and also consider how the group responds to such.

It’s true that there can be domestic violence and child abuse everywhere, but the key word is “marked.” When I was a JW, domestic abuse was commonplace, and as I’ve brought out, women were routinely blamed for their own abuse. One elder I talked with outright told me that they sent women home to abusive men and “some of these men wound up killing their wives,” with a smirk on his face. Stories abound of elders actually encouraging physical abuse to keep women submissive.

Child abuse in the form of harsh beatings and spankings were also common; one man gave a discourse at a congregation I attended and said that while spankings and beatings were a parent’s decision, you simply should never leave a permanent mark on your child. See this post for personal recollections of child physical abuse in the religion.

The reaction of the group itself to such abuse should also raise concern as to whether or not it’s a cult. As I bring out in this post, women are outright encouraged to stay with abusive men in the hopes of converting them. Other religions run domestic violence shelters, but for a JW woman, your place is in the home, taking your beating with a smile so that your husband may be so impressed that he becomes one of Jehovah’s Witnesses too.

Admonitions Against Seeking Outside Help

This thought should apply when people of the religion or organization need protection or some type of counseling, or help of any sort that is beyond the capabilities of those in charge.

While Jehovah’s Witnesses do not forbid their members from seeking psychiatric help, they do admonish that “Christians should be sure that any treatment they pursue does not conflict with Bible principles.” (December, 2014, Awake) This is a very vague statement; what if the treatment recommended by a counselor includes psychiatric drugs that the religion may frown upon, or a person is told that they are under stress because of the demands of their religion?

The May, 2014, Awake talked about reducing expenses and time spent at work as a way to reduce stress, but it did not mention reducing the time spent studying JW literature, going in the preaching work, attending meetings, and so forth.

It should also be noted that Jehovah’s Witness women are not encouraged to call the police when being abused by their husbands, but are told to be loving and submissive in the hopes of converting them. This includes when being physically abused.

Until their policy was rewritten in 2010, Jehovah’s Witnesses were outright forbidden from calling the police in cases of child molestation, being told that this violated a scriptural principle of “bringing a brother to court,” and that it would bring reproach on the congregation. While they have put in print that calling the police is a personal decision for parents to make, many will attest to how elders pressure and even outright threaten families to keep them from doing this.

Serious Matters That Are Handled Internally By Those Not Qualified

As brought out in the category on Rape, a woman who is the victim of rape is questioned by elders as to her actions during this time. Elders are not trained in post-traumatic stress syndrome, criminology, psychology, and the like. When a religion allows unqualified persons to try to handle these types of scenarios internally, and to supposedly “determine” if a woman has been raped, this is a sure sign, in my mind, that they are abusive and very high-control. Who are they to put themselves in that position of deciding whether or not a woman has been raped? Elders decide to control women even during a horrendous, brutal, vicious attack by threatening her with shunning for “fornication,” when they are not qualified to make this call.

Questioning of child rape victims is also an abhorrent factor among Jehovah’s Witnesses; elders have been caught asking them if they enjoyed the experience at all, asking a victim to actually demonstrate in front of her attacker how far apart her legs were spread, and so on. (See the Pedophilia category for more information.) Elders are not qualified to speak to victims of any crime, much less child rape victims. Many former Jehovah’s Witnesses have come forward and talked about how they felt raped all over again during these meetings with elders. This, too, indicates the need for more control and intrusion than is necessary for a religion.

The discouragement women face when it comes to calling police for domestic violence issues may fall under this section of a situation being handled by those not qualified. Domestic violence is a crime, and elders and the governing body of Jehovah’s Witnesses have no training or education in how this behavior affects children in the home, yet they assume that a woman needs a lecture and should just take her abuse, in the hopes of converting the men. See the Domestic Violence category for more information.

As brought out in this post, elders also counsel a suicidal woman in one of the worst ways possible, actually reprimanding her for her feelings, telling her to just reject those thoughts. Again, elders are not counselors or therapists; they have no training, qualifications, or credentials for this type of “assistance.”

Claiming Direct Communication With God

Some religious leaders claim a direct inspiration by, or relationship with, god, but these claims seem to be strongest and loudest in the most controlling and abusive of all groups, and especially in cults. Leaders in those groups typically claim to have a special relationship with god, claim that they talk with god, get direction right from god, and so on.

For Jehovah’s Witnesses, their governing body has been slyly elevating itself over the rest of the congregants in the past few years; they note that they are guided by “god’s holy spirit,” which they believe to be a force god uses to accomplish things (September 2015, 2009, Watchtower).

During a discourse in 2014, governing body member Anthony Morris stated outright that those who disagreed with his words should “take it up with god,” and have many times said that salvation is dependent upon following their words and counsel.

Sexism or Racism

Any group of people will no doubt have sexists or racists among them, but when a group’s doctrines, teachings, or overall atmosphere include a degrading view of persons based on their gender or race, this is an abuse on their part.

The early history of Jehovah’s Witnesses is not kind toward those who are black, as the February 15, 1904, Watchtower suppositioned that black skin would turn white in their paradise earth. The future magazines talked about the futility of trying to educate a black man, about their inherent drunkenness, and such. In 1973, it was noted in the December 1 Watchtower, that a dating couple of two different races may not want to get married if it offended their neighbors or local culture. This attitude may have softened somewhat, as a current member of their governing body, Samuel Herd, is black. However, there has never been any official apology or retraction of these earlier words. See this website for more quotes from the Watchtower about black persons.

Misogyny is abundant in the JW religion, as you can see from the Women category of this blog. Women are not allowed to handle any responsibilities in the religion and must wear a hat or other head covering when they need to perform certain work, such as arranging for car groups for their preaching work, to show respect for her “submission” to men. A woman’s long hair has said to be a natural sign of her subordinate position to men (see this post). Women are not allowed to give public discourses or even public bible readings from the stage of a Kingdom Hall. She must also wear a hat or head covering when studying the bible with her own son, if he is baptized as a JW, no matter his age.

A woman who has been the victim of rape must recount her ordeal to elders, who will “discern” if she did enough to resist, otherwise they will decide that she consented to the act and she may face shunning for “fornication.” Battered women are not assisted, but rather blamed for their abuse.

The Organization Above All Else

One teaching that I would think would make a group cult-like or abusive is if they feel the organization should come above all else, even the health and safety of its members.

Before their official policy was rewritten in 2010, parents were outright forbidden from calling the police in matters of child sexual assault, so they wouldn’t bring reproach on the organization. Women in abusive marriages are encouraged to stay so that the man gets a “witness” and hopefully converts to the religion.

Children in the religion are strongly encouraged to give up higher education in favor of preaching and missionary work, or unpaid volunteer services at one of their branch offices or headquarters (May, 2010, Kingdom Ministry).

Perhaps one of the most obvious cases of putting the organization above everything else when it comes to being one of Jehovah’s Witnesses is the practice of disfellowshipping, or excommunication, and the all-encompassing shunning that goes along with it. Despite the claim that the religion builds strong family bonds, this practice is based on the flimsiest of scriptural applications and outright misquotes (see this post), and yet members will shun even their own children who are still living at home or their elderly parents and grandparents.

When a family member is shunned, their extended family (children, grandchildren) are also typically shunned along with them, even if these ones were never Jehovah’s Witnesses in the first place.

Inappropriate or Exaggerated Responses to Criticism

When a religion or other group is criticized, of course they can respond as necessary. However, the manner and type of their response may call into question their credibility, and if they are being overly controlling of members, and of how these ones view such criticism.

Inappropriate responses to criticism may include threats, name calling or ad hominem attacks (meaning attacking the person or source directly, rather than answering the criticism), insulting or calling into question the other party’s level of education or knowledge of a particular subject, calling into question their motives, crying “persecution” in response to legitimate criticisms, etc. These methods of responses can demonstrate a need to control outside criticisms, and are often attempts to downgrade or diminish the critics themselves in the eyes of their followers. In turn, the criticisms are then downplayed, rather than actually answered.

Often, Jehovah’s Witnesses refer to critics as “apostates,” which is a derogatory term they use to describe any who leave their religion; the May 1, 2000, Watchtower referred to Satan as “the first apostate.” The February 15, 2011, Watchtower talked about “apostate websites,” and the January 15, 2013, Watchtower simplified edition said, “Newspaper headlines, television shows, and Internet Web pages are used to spread false stories…” and called these “Satan’s lies.”

In March of 2015, governing body member Stephen Lett referred to “apostate-driven lies and dishonesties” when it comes to news stories that imply they are permissive to pedophiles (see this website). This is an interesting term, because it is not “apostates” who are doing all of this reporting, but reputable news agencies such as the BBC and PBS have presented news stories about pedophilia scandals among Jehovah’s Witnesses. Certainly the Australian Royal Commission Inquiry of 2015 would also not fall under the heading of “apostate lies,” nor would the W5 investigation that aired in March of 2018:

The March 1, 2003, Watchtower, when talking about the subject of persecution, said:

“…how should we feel when newspaper, radio, or television reports about Jehovah’s Witnesses are distortions or outright falsehoods? Should we be shocked? No. We expect such things. … And we are not surprised when some believe the published lies and distortions, since ‘anyone inexperienced puts faith in every word.’ … Still, loyal Christians refuse to believe just any statement made about their brothers, and they certainly do not allow bad publicity to cause them to miss Christian meetings, to slow down in the field ministry, or to waver in their faith.”

Sexual Indiscretions and Abuse of Power by Those in Authority

One strong indicator of a religion or other group being a cult, abusive, overly controlling, etc., is the number of sexual indiscretions, or abuse of power by those in authority to take advantage of their members sexually. Unfortunately Jehovah’s Witnesses do not have a good track record in this regard; see the Pedophilia category of this site for story after story of child molestation that happens behind their closed walls. Jehovah’s Witnesses have been repeatedly sued by these victims because of how they have handled these incidents, and have even put children in harm’s way by allowing them to be alone with known pedophiles without warning parents. These pedophiles have included elders and others in authority in the congregation.

Along with lawsuits because of child molestation, stories abound of elders asking obscenely perverse questions of the women in particular when it comes to their sexual encounters, supposedly as a way to judge their “repentance” of immorality. They may ask if they had an orgasm, if they changed positions during sex, if they had anal sex, if they performed oral sex and how many times, if the man put his fingers in her vagina (to determine if she was actually a virgin when this happened or if she’s lying about it being her first sexual encounter), and so on. These questions are typically asked of three men who are alone with the woman, and they will even ask these questions of underage women without their parents present.

This obscenity of questioning even extends to child rape victims, as they have been known to ask them if they enjoyed the sexual experience at all (this post), and in one case, asked a rape victim how far apart her legs were spread during her attack (this post).

Hate Speech

Religions may set standards as to what they feel is immoral and unacceptable according to their beliefs and holy books; as an example, many religions feel that homosexuality is a serious sin.

While I would never tell a religion what to believe when it comes to morals and sexual behavior, you might note in this post how Jehovah’s Witness governing body member Tony Morris blamed homosexuals for pedophilia. As brought out in that post, study after study has debunked the idea that gay men are more likely to commit pedophilia than heterosexual men.

Set aside the idea that Jehovah’s Witnesses are still refusing to take responsibility for the pedophilia in their religion; to talk about how homosexuals use young children for sexual gratification is, in my mind, hate speech.

Note too this post, where Jehovah’s Witnesses liken the death of everyone who is not one of Jehovah’s Witnesses, something they feel will soon happen at Armageddon, to a homeowner exterminating “pests.” This too is hateful when it comes to people who are not JWs.

While many religions teach that theirs is the only true set of beliefs, going past this exclusionary thinking to fostering outright hatred toward homosexuals and those outside the religion might be considered mental abuse and a form of extreme control. If you can teach your congregants that people outside your religion are akin to cockroaches, and that homosexuals aren’t just immoral in your eyes but downright dangerous to your children, then it’s less likely that those congregants will ever want to stray from your religion or explore sexuality outside your mandates.


I don’t know if Jehovah’s Witnesses could legally or technically be called a cult, and 11,000 words later I still don’t care. What I do know is that they are abusive, controlling, obscene, harshly judgmental, misogynistic, and just plain unloving. They misquote and misapply scripture, have made many false prophecies, and have changed their beliefs many times over.


Jehovah’s “happy” people.

Jehovah’s Witnesses emotionally blackmail their members into staying, and abandon those who do to some of the most horrific abuses imaginable. They create guilt, depression, stifling childhoods and marriages, and downright unhappy congregants.

Most ex-JWs, myself included, will attest to this; my own mother tried to commit suicide many times and was regularly in mental health facilities, as were many other women I knew in local congregations. It wasn’t unusual to see women in the back rooms crying during meetings, talking among themselves about their oppressive and abusive marriages, but knowing they could do nothing about them.

Depression was common, as was alcohol abuse and the use of antidepressants. Most men I knew in the religion were angry, oppressive, condescending, arrogant, and downright rude to congregants; after all, they could certainly afford to be, since they had absolute authority over members, and anyone who didn’t like it could be disfellowshipped and was going to die at Armageddon.

Many of us children grew up nervous, anxious, afraid of our own parents, terrified to go to meetings for fear of a beating, and dreading yet another Saturday being dragged out into the preaching work.

At the end of the day, this religion costs people their lives, not to mention children their innocence and many people their happiness, all because of scriptures they obviously don’t understand, predictions they have to repeatedly change, and teachings which seem to do nothing but allow them to wield more power over others.

The power that cults and other such groups have over their members is referred to in the legal arena as “undue influence,” and I absolutely hate that phrase. Why? Because it doesn’t even come close to describing the horrific abuses and control this religion has over its members.

I don’t know how to define Jehovah’s Witnesses, but if the words of a woman who survived the Jonestown massacre could easily be applied to them, I would say there’s probably a number of labels that would fit, “cult” being just one.


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  1. One important point I didn’t see in the article is that the “bible” JW’s use was rewritten by the founder (and subsequent other committees) and the text changed to suit their narrative. This, in spite of the fact that the founder was convicted of repeatedly purjoring himself during a lawsuit brought by a concerned Presbyterian minister.
    The founder (already infamous for his fraudulent sale of so-called “miracle wheat”) claimed to be fluent in written Greek and Hebrew, but when presented with even basic letters of each language was unable to identify them. Shortly thereafter he admitted he could read neither. He also denied ever having been divorced, but when presented with the legal writ on file, admitted that he, indeed, had been divorced.
    A true prophet, speakibg for God, must have an accuracy rate of 100% to foresee future events he could not possibly know about ahead of time. They also don’t lie, nor change their past statements. They have also not been previously convicted of fraud (Mormon founder Joseph Smith was also convicted of fraud and lied about his knowledge of ancient languages.)
    The Holy Bible clearly (and often) repeats that a bad tree cannot produce good fruit, but will wither and die. I hope, for all those innocent people who are being manipulated and having gheir families, money, and lives stolen from them, that the lies of these cults will be widely exposed. Only then can people take back control of their lives.

    • I’m still growing up with JW’s and I hate it. Everything in this article is so true and I know it on a deep level. I usually have to sit in the bathroom during the meetings because going there every sunday and tuesday night gives me anxiety attacks. I can’t wait until I’m able to not have to go to the meetings anymore.

      • Dear Kylie. I know (as do many on this forum) what you are going through. For many of us, it’s about waiting until we’re legally old enough to leave, when our parents/legal guardians can no longer force us to do things against our will. I don’t know how old you are but I’m asking you to hold on. Hold on to faith that things will get better for you, whether it’s 6 months away or 5 years away. Hold on to the belief that the world has so much to offer and when you are finally able to break free, you will prosper. Do not let your parents or the JW organization cause you to stop dreaming or kill any aspirations you may have. Visualize how you want your life to be. Seek assistance from a school guidance counselor (requesting complete confidentiality) about how you can set things up and start planning so that the moment you are legally free from your parents’ grip, you can step out into the world ready and able to thrive in it. There may be a family that can take you in; community college that you will offer you full financial aid or full scholarships; people that will offer you employment. Picture the life that you want, and, in the meantime, continue to build your character by further developing perserverance and strength. You are a survivor. There is light on the other side of this, and you will get there. You are also very strong and wise to be able to, at your young age, know deep within you that the JW teachings are false and contrary to the teachings of a loving Creator. Take comfort in the fact that you will not be stuck in a controlling religion for most of your life like so many of us here on this forum have. You will still be afforded many opportunities and have the rest of your “free” life to look forward to. I wish you the very best, and am here to offer my advice or a listening ear at any time.

  2. This is so true I was a former jw as a child and it ruined my life My mother told me when I was an adult that she could not love me because I left Jw and she would never see my in paradise I was afraid of everything I did. the elders in the church looked down 0n children and those of lesser means It was a clique

  3. How can one claim to be ” In the truth ” when they no longer seek knowledge for ones self and are content with what a org will tell them , keep seeking the truth as it will set u free but to say u are content with the truth ur already in limits you and your thirst for knowledge …

    • I think that if there is a god
      and he is fair minded and just without fault,
      how can he “be using JW’s” as a means of reaching human society
      when the reputation of JW’s has been near enough ruined by allegations of sexual abuse by members,
      cover ups, failure to take action against suspect and downright guilty members?
      I find it increasingly difficult to take this organization seriously when it has so many questions to answer about the conduct of its members.
      I acknowledge the fact that the clergy worship God in ways that don’t tally with the example set by 1st century Christians.
      JW’s claim to honor God by serving him in the way that he expects to be served.
      But what about the allegations of abuse of many kinds, does God approve of that?
      I doubt it.
      So until JW’s clear their name, they can’t truly claim to be the only Christian organization to have God’s approval.
      I am sure that He takes human fallabilty into account
      but can imperfection/sin really be used to justify sexual abuse and covering up wrong doing?
      Also, yesterday I decided to go to the meeting in my local area to hear the talk about “who really is Jesus Christ?”
      I must say that I enjoyed it.
      However, I was surprised to find one of the Witnesses mocking another witness about being overweight and this was done in front of other witnesses.
      This person then “told me” that they will be coming to see me.
      Now, don’t get me wrong now, I don’t expect JW’s to be rigid and conservative, stone faced in everything that they do.
      But mocking a guy because he is overweight, then proudly boasting that he had lost weight, then effectively “inviting himself” into my home by telling me that he is coming to see me.
      This same person, also used every trick in the book to try to persuade me to throw away my pc despite the fact that I use it to pay my bills and it is my property and it is up to me if I want to keep it or not.
      Another time this same person “told me to smile” and also “told me to keep my chin.”
      Another time he actually made a return vist to “tell me to stop playing my drums” because he felt that it was unfair on my neighbors.
      What he didn’t take the time to ask and I would have told that my neighbors actually don’t mind me playing my drums.
      My point is this guy despite being a JW is one hell of a control freak!
      I don’t know if that is partly due to the religion he follows or if that is part of his personality?
      What I do know is that it is off putting and I have actually complained to another witness about this Brother’s conduct because I think that he needs to stop and check his conduct and the way he comes across to me and whether that is in harmony with the bible guidelines?
      I don’t actually want this guy to visit me because I know from previous experience that he is only coming to attempt to persuade me to start studying the bible again.
      He will also almost certainly try to use mind games to make me feel guilty and bad about not going to meetings and studying the bible etc etc.
      I don’t like or want that under my roof or outside in the street.
      I don’t appreciate it when JW’s arrive unannouced and then proceed to ask me how I am?
      How’s my mum? etc
      and by the way it would be nice to see you at the meeting on sunday.
      Nothing wrong with inviting to a meeting, but I just find the meetings a bit heavy at times
      especially when it is based on putting God first in everything you do etc etc.
      That naturally makes me feel guilty if I’m not doing that and there after I feel guilty to lay down and listen to some music because I should be at the meeting etc.
      Also the ” put up with everything” or “be in subjection” commandment, messes with my head because I think well, if I am expected to be in subjection to the superior authorities
      who are they in subject to?
      Or has God given them a license to impose all kinds of laws and burdens on me while God expects me to accept them without complaint?
      That seems unfair in my opinion.
      Also if JW’s obey that commandment
      why are so many of them being accused of breaking Gods laws on moral conduct?
      Do you get where I am coming from?
      There is more than a hint of hypocrisy and self righteousness coming through this organization and I think that it is a shame because I believe that it started with a good motive but as the decades have passed
      they seem to be too self assured and I don’t think that is right especially when the integrity of the governing body is under question.
      Surely they need to be upfront and admit their failures and try to put them right before claiming to be the only Christian organization with God’s approval?
      Anyway that’s all I have to say.

  4. There is no mention of people not pursuing higher so they become impoverished and even more prone to brainwashing. A lot of these JW are barely making ends meet b/c they are not encouraged to get higher education to get better jobs b/c their investment is not in this system of things but rather in paradise.

  5. As far as I am concerned this cult is full of brainwashed anxiety prone people who spill out fear intolerance hatred and arrogance disguised within practiced fake smiles and words. They are utterly pretentious people who have a hidden need to feel unique chosen and superior and are manipulated and in turn taught to be manipulators.
    I have been shown more genuine love care acceptance and respect from outside the cult than I ever did within it which was was the complete opposite of what I was taught as a child.
    For years after leaving I suffered with recurrent persistent crippling depression anxiety and stress. I suffered with nightmares for years about dying at armageddon and as a child from the age of around 4 till I was 13 was so scared of satan and his demons that I slept in the wardrobe as I felt safer in there.
    I came here because I want to thank you so very much for writing this as it went a long way to unscrambling and healing my mind and emotions.
    I am now a parent to two sweethearted teenage girls and have wonderful friends who I love and admire who love and accept me for my humanity faults and all. We are able to feel comfortable to be truly honest with each other about our thoughts feelings and actions rather than scorning or shunning one another for our lack of perfection.
    I wish for you all imperfectly normal loved peaceful mistake filled happy lives that you can learn valuable lessons from. Take care.

    • Hi Louise,
      I have to say that though I feel sad that your opinion of JW’s is so negative,
      I also admire your courage to speak freely about your thoughts and feelings.
      I’m not a JW but I used to study the bible with them in my local community and I must say that I can relate to what you mentioned about “recurrent persistent crippling depression anxiety and stress.”
      To clarify, I have suffered from an anxiety disorder since my childhood and I am now 51 years old and still struggle with it now.
      However, I have noticed that I have become more anxious about natural things such as friendships relationships etc and to an extent I think that is due to the way this organization makes everything outside of it look bad.
      As a consequence I feel plagued with guilt if I try to find a new girlfriend for example because of course,
      JW’s always warn about “fornication.”
      As a result, I find it difficult to have relationships without feeling guilty and even afraid because of the influence JW’s teachings have had on my conciousness.
      Don’t get me wrong, I think that self restraint can be beneficial but I think that JW’s tend to take it a bit too far and they risk hurting the people they are supposed to be helping.
      I hope that in time you will start to feel better and not plagued with fear anxiety and stress.
      Life is stressful enough than for it to be made worse by people who may mean well but don’t always do so in the right way.
      Anyway please take care.

  6. I hate the cult. They belittled my family, carried tales about our lives to all and sundry. They also told us tales of other people they visited. They shamed a nember of my family so bad he took his life. They are very cunning and sly, and certainly not Christians. They are evil. Please don’t ever trust them, or think they are your friends, because I promise you they are not.

    • Marther cooksey, I am sorry they treated you so badly. Right after I realized I had made a mistake joning those people I blamed myself, but then I realized that Satan is difficult to spot. The Bible even warns us about that! In Acts 20:30, before Paul departs, he warns the believers about false teachers! False teachers want to be important. They want power over people and to lead people away from Christ. Sounds like the jws to me. May God bless you!

  7. My son married a Jehovahs Witness. That was the beginning of the end. He was raised in a Baptist Church and has never been around any Jehovah’s Witness yet he marries one. This woman has totally segregated my son from. I am his mother yet he has now found everything the matter with me. This woman is crazy. She will not eat meat that she sees any blood in and any of my food that I cooked she would not eat. She has belittled me and lied to me. I have an autoimmune disease yet she treats me as if I have nothing the matter and is careless with food and she made me almost go into anaphylactic shock with her carelessness. She came into my home and took a bath and left water all around the tub and 3 inches of water in the floor and I was not supposed to complain because it was just something that happened and not wroth complaining about but I own a $300,000 home that I did not appreciate her running so now my son will no longer associate with me because I will not apologize to her.

    I have not seen my grandchildren for over 6 years because they have used them as leverage against me. I have been told that unless I apologize to her I will no longer be ale to associate with my son. I did not make that choice but did decide not to go back to his home because I cannot please her regardless of what I do. This has broken my heart and since this is my only son I think that JW’s are separatists as she has never tried to make contact with me in any way. He says she loves him but she uses him because he makes a lot of money and has already talked him into signing his home into her name if he dies. My heart is broken but I will not be blackmailed into apologizing to a Jehovah’s Witness. I have spent my life running them away from my home. Her daddy used to be a missionary for Jehovah’s Witness so that is how far this goes. She is using my son to get what she wants. She throws a fit when she does not get her way but her way is the life he now leads. I have to grow accustomed to the fact that I will not longer see my son before I die as this is the choice he has made.I have full knowledge that they are a cult. This woman has destroyed my relationship with my son and he demands an apology from me?

    I will not apologize to a cult member. This woman is crazy. She gets whatever she wants because she has had two children and all my son ever wanted was children so his children are his life since ehe waited until almost 40 to have any children they are his life. He claims I am jealous of her trying to place the blame onto me but nothing could be further from the truth. He claims I am jealous of her which is further to the contrary since I still talk to his ex ad love her to pieces. My son drinks all the time and this is his fault but since he s my only son is trying to blame me for his life. As I see it he is trying to blame me for everything that has ever happened to me. I am a Christian saved y the blood of Jesus Christ and know where I am going whenever I die. I did bring my son up the same way. I love God, my husband and my country, say Pledge of Allegiance and read my Holy Bible. She and I have nothing in common. She is rude, mean and self centered, Everything revolves around her and her children. Her husband does not even Coe first. I reuse to apologize to a Jehovahs Witness for anything that I have done which has been nothing. She has broken up my relationship with my son and she has never tried to repair it. Her mother and daddy who are also JW’s and raised her are as crazy as she is.

    I lost my son to a Jehovahs Witness and it cannot be repaired unless I apologize to her which I refuse to do because my God is my savior and I feel that she as a Jehovahs Witness is satanic and the Holy Bible warns us to stay away from people like her. The only thing I can hope is the fact that my grandma once told me that all people return to the way they were raised. I feel that sooner or later my son will also but if he does not then I have lost him. It happened right in front of me and he married her because he was obsessed with marrying a virgin of which I refuse to believe that she was but he though between his legs instead of with his brain. I will never see my grandchildren and I have accepted that because the way they have been raised is not to my liking. They are being raised as Jehovahs Witnesses and since I do not agree with this it is best that I stay away. The household in my opinion is satanic and I refuse to go there.

    I have lost my son to a cult from one Jehovahs Witness and me, as a mother, it grieves me to the gut. Knowing that I will never see him again hurts so bad inside as a mother but there is nothing I can do. I have second guessed myself during this last month of should I to just apologize to see my child but he is no longer like he was. He is someone I no longer know. I would rather die in knowing that I did my best with what I had during the time I had him and the love I have for him can never be taken away and I will die as a mother with a broken heart. So one single female Jehovahs Witness broke my family apart.

    His wife also calls my won’s drinking a hereditary disease that he cannot help when there was no drinking in his family but he was raised as me, a single mother working two jobs and taking him with me to one of them in order to provide for him. He was born with a birth defect and I spent considerable amount of time in the hospital with him about 8 times before the age of 6 so I spent many hours with him in the hospital when he was born just to have him fixed where kids would not laugh at him. I did it and had a wonderful plastic surgeon for help with him. He seems to have forgotten everything I did for him but turns his back on me but I can die in knowing that what I did in raising him was right and I did everything as right as I could and with God to help me. Without God in my life I could never have doe it so I know that God will take care of the situation and it may to be before I die but God will take care of him. If not then I have lost him forever. I , as a mother, cannot compete against a Jehovah’s Witness. She did her job and I would not doubt if she doe snot try to kill him. She is a mean and evil woman and I despise her for who she is. Jehovah’s Witnesses are separatists. They separate families and only the strong survive with faith in God.

  8. My ex and I were together for Two years, we were very happy to be husband and wife, last month he started acting distant, then he started hanging out with an unknown girl and kept sneaking off to go hangout with her, so i got upset, i could not endure, i tried to do everything to please him but it got worst, one day he left the house and never came back, i tried reaching him but no way i could reach him, because of the heart break he has put me into, i went into search of help but I was scammed several times, but I never relented in my search because I want a happy life with my Man, when i saw testimony about Dr Mack on the internet, i contacted him through his Email Dr_mack@yahoo. com and to my greatest surprise Dr Mack restored my Marriage, my Man came back to me,

    • As to your statement regarding JW being a cult, they are. Any movement that denies Christ as Savior and does not believe in the Trinity, is a cult. So sad that many are deceived,.

  9. The aurthur of this web is a lost soul. He or she must be unemployed because they have way to much time on their hands to write an entire article in order to draw stupid opinions about a religion they know NOTHING ABOUT and even if they did know something about it what gives you the right to open your trap and blurt out whatever you want about someone else’s relighion? It it obvious you have no class, no sense, and are being controlled by Satin. It is digusting and disrespectful to down anyone’s religious beliefs even if you don’t agree with them. Get a life and a clue. Because all this talk you’re doing about Jehovah Witnesses I’m sure someone can find plenty of dirt on your religion and blast you for believing all the false teachings apart of it. Leave these poor people alone they haven’t anything to you. If you knew any better you’d do better. Just because you don’t feel as strongly about your religious beliefs as they do doesn’t give you the right to stick your nose down on them and judge them for trying to be decent people in our wicked society and live by the Bible as it is apparent you don’t.

    • Dear Lady Love,

      The author is not a lost soul – she is found. I have no idea about her employment status but, as someone myself who was abused by the JW organization for 25+ years, I can personally attest that the author knows what she speaks of. When we become passionate about helping others, whether it by offering advice when solicited, or providing information so that each and every reader can make an informed decision, we make time in our busy lives to make it happen. You ask about what right does the author have to “open your trap and blurt out” the statements she makes. As human beings all sharing the same space on Earth, it is our duty to look out for each other, just as the Scriptures say to “love they neighbour”. Conscientiously and with good intent it is our responsibility to help each other (and that help can come in many forms, including offering support, advice, information and personal accounts). At the end of the day it is each reader’s responsibility to do what he or she wishes with the information. No one, not even the author, can force someone to do something. The articles and information dispensed on this website serves many people from all walks off life. If you are unhappy with the information provided on this forum, then you, of course, have the ability and option to ignore it. However, there are many who have suffered or are currently suffering who need someone to turn to – someone who will be honest and provide first-account knowledge. When you belittle the author or the information provided on this website, you are also belittling all those individuals who are in pain and conflict, and all those seeking guidance.


      • She was obviously a member at one time and has real knowledge. I can attest to all she wrote about as I too grew up as a JW.

      • Well said Ann.
        At the end of the day, if God really exists then he will show us all who has and does not have his approval.
        I said in a previous post and I will say it again,
        I believe that JW’s started with a good motive but with the passing of time it has become too self assured and that can’t be justified given the number of scandals and allegations against it.
        As a result of that, they have surely lost god’s backing and have certainly lost the high moral ground.(if they ever had it in the 1st place)
        One thing I have noticed in their many books and magazines is that they is that they make a lot of assumptions
        such as saying that the arch angel Michael is Jesus Christ.
        The fact is they don’t know if that is true and yet many people blindly accept that and more and that surely isn’t wise
        given the fact that humans don’t know everything and are prone to make mistakes?
        I tip my hat to you for making your point so well without resorting to name calling etc which many people do on here.


    • These posts are not stupid opinions. They are true experiences which people suffer at the hands of Jehovah’s Witnesses. They give religion a bad name and bring great reproach on the name of God. JW’s hurt many and need to be stopped!

      • Glad to see I wasn’t alone on matters, when I confronted elders about monitoring or spying on me they denied accusations. I believe they are trained on how to manipulate electronic devices in your home and personal cell. They always coincidentally showed up where I was and had knowledge of my conversations.

    • Satin is a nice material and all, but I wouldn’t say it controls me. As for your defense of Jehovah’s Witnesses, try telling that to the many pedophile victims they have in their religion.

    • You’re obviously still part of the captive indoctrinated audience. I can attest to virtually everything the author has said goes on. You either haven’t seen or experienced it yet or just towing the company line by defending it. At amy rate you are out here looking. I can only hope you realize the FACTS cause the ‘truth’ as you call it, is relative. I hope you one day can liberate yourself and your mind from this corporation. A corporation which owns shares in the military industrial complex in addition to harbouring pedophiles all in the name of protecting the corporation. Fact.

    • why don’t you make that same statement when the elders/governing body make false statements about other religions, calling them false, or Babylon, world empire of false religion. As the old saying: the pot is now calling the kettle black. who I ask is judging decent people, who and I quote” decent people in our wicked society and live by the bible. It is apparent you my dear don’t! lady love ” you can dish it, but you can’t take it.

  10. Are you aware of how many People are dead bc of the Men-made Doctrins of this Organisation?
    So many died bc being denied Life-saving Organ Transplant or Blood Transfusions. Others have commited Suicide bc of the intense Pressure especially when being socially isolated and shunned after leaving this Cult. Please do not fall for them bc of their friendly Fassade and simple Answers to seemingly all Problems….In the End you will be a blind Follower of 7 old Men in Brooklyn who is a Slave to do anything they command. Includes giving up ur Conciousness and perhaps risking ur Childrens Lives bc of their false Beliefs (Blood-Dogma) etc.

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  12. I also have no answers to tell him why he shouldn’t join the JW society again and why JW beleifs are not true. From what I’ve read it’s one of the ‘newest’ religions. He’s adamant on the life after death in a better world thing and won’t question anything as he’s already done that & has all the answers. He believes the issue with North Korea coming to light is the beginning of the end. Would love advise & opinions

    • You can easily find many examples on the internet on how many times the JW’s erroneously predicted the “beginning of the end.” As to not having any answers to tell him why he shouldn’t rejoin, how about because you don’t want him to; that you yourself won’t be attending, nor will you allow the girls to go, and that if he rejoins he will essentially be tearing apart his marriage and family. You can tell him that the JW religion is extremism, which you find to be very unhealthy, especially for your girls. How about you tell him that you want your daughters to have the opportunity to be raised as independent thinkers, with the ability to think for themselves based on their conscience, instead of being taught that they have to adhere to organizational policy. Based on how you’ve described your husband’s mentality on the subject, it doesn’t appear to me that you have wiggle room to even attempt to try and convince him not to rejoin. If he’s got all the answers, then he will shoot down anything you try to raise as a legitimate cause for not rejoining. I’m sorry, Lynda, for the situation you have found yourself in.

  13. Hi everyone,

    My husband is a 40+yrs Jw & was an elder and ‘high’ up in the district. He was disfellowshipped after we meet & he got divorced from his wife. I have no religious background what so ever and have an outline of what happens when becoming a JW thankfully from this website.
    My young children have celebrated Christmas/ Easter/ birthdays etc with my family 70% of the time he stays with us. We have never been to a church event or talked about it.
    He’s now teaching my children about Jehovah while I’m not around and it’s starting to scare me. My children are all of a sudden happy to not have birthdays or Christmas anymore in such a short time. Its been briefly mentioned about them attending meetings.
    I’m in need of advise of what to do and how to handle my husband. He still believes strongly in the ‘truth’ and plans to go back when they get older, which seems like now. I don’t have answers about ‘how the earth began’ and responses for why they can’t attend meeting other then they need to go to bed and plan things on the weekend so they can’t. I straight out don’t want them going or knowing about Jehovah but don’t want to damage my relationship/ beliefs/ feelings with my husband. Please help

    • Hi Lynda,

      May I assume that the fact your husband teaches your children about Jehovah whilst you’re not around is because he knows that you don’t want your children being taught any of the JW teachings? If my assumption is correct, then you already have a problem with your husband not respecting your wishes, and I can tell you from experience that JW men are placed on a high pedestal and taught to take the lead in the house. They are also taught that they are responsible for their childrens’ salvation by ensuring that they attend the meetings and grow up knowing about Jehovah. They are taught to do this even if the non-believing spouse doesn’t want the children to go. As you can imagine, this can tear a marriage and family apart. Being a spiritual person has absolutely nothing to do with being a religious person. JW’s are religious – they are not spiritual. I can say this because their actions show it; they only have allegiance to the Organization. I say all of this because it really doesn’t matter if one can answer how the Earth was created, or how long humans have been on earth, or did Christ die on the cross versus the stake. What matters is being a good, kind person. The JW religion is not good or kind – it’s hurtful. If your husband feels that he can go behind your back to teach your girls about Jehovah, then you are also free to teach the girls about what you know thus far about the religion. I cannot tell you how to handle your husband, for that is between you both, but I can say for certainty that your life and your girls lives will never be the same (and not in a good way). There are many people that end up having to make the very painful choice of staying in a marriage or having to leave because the married couple are no longer on the same path or the basic shared beliefs that was once the foundation of their relationship has been shattered. You may have to make that same decision if your husband refuses to respect your wishes. Ultimately, you will have to decide what will be less painful: to stay with the way things are going, knowing that you could full well lose your girls, or to leave.

      Peace and blessings to you, Lynda. I wish you the best.

      • hi Lynda, always remember that Jesus, said, the defining mark or sign of a Christian would be love. that being said, we are all imperfect, meaning we miss the mark of perfection. one thing I do know, is when Jesus was on earth, he befriended all sorts of people. when Peter denied Jesus, not one, but, three times he continually forgave him. Jesus Also said , if you have 99 sheep and even one of them stray or get lost, for us to leave those 99 and go after the lost sheep. there are numerous scriptures which is put there for a model for us to follow. I have never seen or read a scripture that asks us to turn our backs or shun people because they stumble. However, there is a scripture at 1cor. 5vs11 where he is speaking to the congregation for those in the congregation called a brother, and the scripture specifically lists what they are and what to do, which is not keep company. with such ones. but keep in mind it it says any one who calls himself a brother not anyone who disagree with the doctrine or belief. God, gave us all free will, and for us to use it as we see fit, this is not a sin nor is it meant to be used against us. I would say start using your common sense, If it sounds too good to be true it is. trust your good conscious, we all have one. and most important, pray and ask God, to help you understand and guide you. remember he gives those asking. The Word says for us not to put our trust in earthly man whom no salvation belongs, when he dies, he goes back to the grave and dust he returns. located at psalms 146 vs4 read it. hope this helps.

  14. My father and mother emigrated to Perth Australia many decades ago when I was very young. I am now in my mid 50’s. We were a typical Jehovah Witness family. Shortly after arriving in Australia my parents divorced. Given the shunning practice it destroyed our family with my mother staying in the JWs and my father and the children my brothers and myself leaving. When we grew up we all went separate ways and hardly seen each other let alone communicated to any standard. I got closer to my father after a failed marriage but hardly seen my mother who remains in the faith. The shunning certainly had the desired effect of destroying our family. My father remarried a non JW and is very happy.

    Decades later I was going through a very difficult time and started to get closer to my mother, I had a normal life up until then but was depressed with relationship issues as well as work and health issues. I started to look at going back into the JW faith through my mother and ended up cutting the rest of my family and friends out of my life who were all non JWs. I ended up only knowing JWs.

    I now go through stages of utter depression at my life which has been ruined by the JWs and Watchtowers critical execution of a faith that is full of contradictions, false predictions, outright cruelty and disregard for any way of life that is not dictated by the Watchtower. At times you feel they make it up as they go along. They have zero tolerance for other faiths, yet all other religions practice Harmony to all others, JWs don’t.

    While the JW faith is not new it is relatively new compared to the mainstem religions. I am convinced that if it was started in more modern times it would be considered a cult and banned in most first world countries. They prey on vulnerable people who are down, conflicted or going through tough times. These are their bread and butter converts, who join with promises of a better more fulfilling life. That is not the case, you end up frustrated, confused, depressed and more importantly alone with no friends out with the JW faith. This is exactly what the Watchtower wants. I have never felt so alone or depressed, with no real friends outside the Witnesses, I have lost all my family except my JW mother. I even gave up emails, social media etc and my lifestyle, hobies. Again this is what they want as the last thing they want is you getting unbiased information especially from ex JWs who out number practising JWs. My life is destroyed which has caused me to make several attempts to end my life. You are in effect brain washed.

    I would urge anyone who has family or friends who in a moment of weakness consider joining JWs to not abandon them. You need to be there for them when they are spat out or when they realize the magnitude of the mistake they are making. I don’t have that support network. This is exactly what the watchtower wants. They don’t care they are ruining lives.

    I have no idea what I will do or what life holds for me as I don’t have a non JW support network. I even gave up the man I loved dearly because he had no intention of being a JW! Life is very tough being a JW. Its full as I said of contradictions, false predictions and extreme lack of tolerance to non JWs and cruelty to practising JWs.

    So please do not abandon any friends or family who get sucked into this false faith, they will need you. We need to do as much as we can not to loose people to this cult which ruin’s lives. They have no regards for countries laws and traditions which can be seen in all the child abuse hearings that seen to be happening in a lot of countries. This is the tip of the iceberg and not the only abuse they practice or cover up. I hate to think how many people take their life when they can see no way back. I have been and still are there. I would give anything to turn the clock back. While I don’t agree with what has been happening in Russia and their lack of tolerance to religion and human rights I do think their approach to ban this religion may not be a bad thing.

    So please think twice before joining this religion they are masters of manipulation and preying on vulnerable people while at the same time practicing zero tolerance for others or other countries laws. Not the ideas you would associate with any other religion.

    Amanda Jane Moore
    Perth Western Australia

    • Dearest Amanda,

      My heart is breaking for you. I completely understand what you have experienced and are experiencing now. Whilst I never attempted to take my life, I certainly did not want to live anymore (at age 16 when I should’ve been so happy and experiencing what other typical teens experience, I was depressed, miserable and not wanting to go on with life). I don’t know what the current situation is with your non-JW family, but considering their own experiences with the religion and having an in-depth knowledge themselves of how it works, I would like to think that they would be willing to forgive and embrace you, but perhaps too much damage has been done? I don’t know if you’re employed, but is there a social group at work or can you start one? It can be something small – it doesn’t have to be grandiose. What about volunteering at an organization that means something to you? Not only will you receive a sense of fulfillment and purpose, it’s a great way to meet other like-minded people. Are there any support groups, whether it consist of former JW’s or even a support group for grief (you may not have lost anyone in death but having been completely cut-off from them certainly is the death of a relationship). I hope that you are able to somehow find peace and joy. Remember – baby steps. As for what’s happening in Russia, I’m very pleased at the action that has been taken against the JW religion. Whilst some may say it’s an infringement on human rights and a lack of tolerance, from my perspective the JW religion is the epitome of human rights infringement and lack of tolerance. They were banned because they practice extremism. So many lives have been ruined; the ban is certainly a step in the right direction. There is a Sanskrit word: Karuna (Kah-ru-nah) which means to intervene on someone’s behalf/to do one’s part in diminishing suffering. I truly believe that the ban, even though the rationale behind the ban may not be for selfless reasons, is an act of intervening on behalf of the large group of voiceless, powerless, innocent people that have been preyed upon by a cult. I also agree that the JW religion make things up as they go along. What JW’s don’t know (because they’re not allowed to look at any material outside of the Watchtower’s publications) is that the Governing Body (the group of men who make all the decisions and policy-making) actually occurs by means of a majority vote. So long as 2/3 vote a certain way, a policy is enacted. JW’s are led to believe that the Governing Body receives divine inspiration to enact a policy; they are clueless as to what actually goes on behind the scenes. And whilst this group of mean behind closed doors vote to enact a policy, they live cushy lives at headquarters, having all of their needs taken care of, whilst they enact policies that destroy families and lives.

      I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

      Peace and blessings to you,

      • The only answer to people that have been brainwashed by a cult, is trusting Jesus to save them. Read John chapter 3 and ask God for guidance.

      • Amanda, you are so very right. I myself allowed someone else to think and talk for me. I forgot when God, said we are all responsible for ourselves, no one can get you salvation. they prey on those of us who is searching for truth. which is easy when we see the world so wicked. but do not be fooled. when JEsus, was hung along side two other men. I noticed when Jesus began talking about his Kingdom to them, upon his completion of his words, one of the men asked Jesus to remember him when he get in your Kingdom, and Jesus, responded, and I quote: “surely, I say to you, you will be with me in paradise. The man had no previous works or faith, yet he believed what Jesus words, and his heart moved him, and Jesus read his heart. These are the people God said when he said he was taking out a people for his name. not a title name. but people who are searching for more. and when you believe it moves you to action, applying yourself to build a close friendship/ relationship with your Heavenly father. there is no greater love.

    • This is a very sad story. Jehovah’s Witnesses must be stopped! I think it’s great Russia has banned them, because they are not a religion. They are a business who con people into working for them. If only people would do what Paul said in 1 John 4:1-6. “Test the spirits to see whether they are from God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world.”
      Jesus did not lie and deceive people! They tell people they never pass an offering plate around. But try not putting any money into their collection box for a couple of months. Those elders that stand by the entrance in the KH greeting people who are entering are watching. I actually “stuck around” longer than I wanted, to make sure. When the JW’s study with a person, they talk about having a trained conscience. Wow, is that the pot calling the kettle black! I don’t know how most of them, especially the elders, sleep at night.

    • Amanda there are a great many exjws as well as vast support sites created by exjws for exjws. I found them to be mutually supportive. Its a new brotherhood which will not shun you for having a difference of opinion. Do not give up. There is light at the end of the tunnel.

      Im in law enforcement and have seen parents that visit their children in jail. When a child leaves the faith they are written off as a mentally diseased apostate. This cult is a poison. Worse, a poison will just kill someone. This organization holds families hostage in return for servitude.

    • Amanda my heart goes out to you, I’m in pretty much the same boat at the moment with no one to turn to, I pretty much gave up the love of my life because he didn’t want to study and become a witness and the family was against it too so I stupidly gave it all up for the truth and it took me a while to realise that I want something better for my life now I’m out of the congregation I’m left an outsider, how are you getting through this Amanda if you have any thing you could share with me about support and where to get it from would be a great help, thank you and hope you are doing better

  15. I have personally witnessed and experienced emotional, spiritual and verbal abuse within the congregation, in many cities. It’s my personal belief that abuse of power is extremely evident by elders and, worst of all, by their wives. The children of elders often refuse to become baptized for all the reasons listed above. Some try to commit suicide. Some become homosexual. Some become sexual predators and a great many girls in their minority are raped by blood relations, usually familial brothers and “friends” of families. JWs go beyond Biblical law, instituting man-made laws as interpretations of Scripture that is in direct opposition to what the Bible actually States. We ALL have intellectual freedom and the resources ARE available to those who seek. Even the Bible States those who seek will find and those who ask…receive the right answers at the right time. This a God-given gift to EVERYONE.

    Seek and ye shall find.

    What the Bible States is to give Caesar his due (obedience to law enforcement). God is extremely capable of fighting for those who are persecuted. His law is higher than human comprehension. That is why God is my savior, through the ransom sacrifice of Jesus. No man will ever again mislead me into believing a cult is the real deal. Thank you, God, for listening to my prayers.

    • Well said! I witnessed the same and I am so thankful that God opened my eyes in a short time rather than be a part of their business for too long! It is my hope and prayer that with God’s blessing we can put them out of business.

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